Thursday, February 25, 2010

a quickie

life is so full--a balloon with lovely, dense, and weightier than weightless air filling it up. almost to bursting. almost too much.

we got unmarried, not in the pray eat drink (or whatever it is called) oprah ordained book of the month club way. we had an unwedding ceremony as in the 364 days of us loving and needing and supporting and caring and longing and then singling out one of those many unwedding days (the 365th) and having a party day.

We made up a beautiful ritual and we stood in the cold for a long time and people who love both of us stood there in the cold with us and recognized our love and cried with us and sang with us and got all mooshy good feelinged with us.

It was altogether stunning.

it was a testament to love and to loving people through differences and finding connection and support at the end of the struggle. it was all about the legacy of healing that can bubble up from the residue of hurt (i say this about family of origin struggle and tension that has come a long way to real acceptance--no tolerance here buddies--real acceptance saturated our surroundings the day of our unwedding).

6 comments: said...

yay. for snowy unweddings!

jessie said...

What a beautiful picture! Any more? Congrats! I love the way you write

Mrs. Basement said...

your wife's outfit, but especially that hat, are altogether stunning!
happy un wedding and happy having such good friends.

f said...

ah! is that the most beautiful photograph or what?!! what magic. do you have any others? what was the ceremony or experience like? is kk not the most beautiful and radient being in that outfit in that snow? and you all dapper and glowing. and both of you in love. thanks for sharing :-)

birdy.j said...

aww, thanks people! we have a flickr site. do you want to share it N or is that un-blog-like? :)

andrea said...

Oh Em Gee! What an insanely beautiful photo. I'm sure it can not compare to the entire experience of the day you both, I'm sure, so lovingly crafted. But thank you for sharing. Blessings to you both. I just read a line in "I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings", it's something Maya Angelou's mother tells her "Life is going to give you just what you put in it. Put your whole heart in everything you do, pray, then you can wait". I know you both do, and I love and respect you both so, so much.